Oct 3, 2011

Teaching Your Kids to be Great Adults

Is it just me, or does it seem kids are getting a little bit more arrogant and self-centred these days? I know they say the stereotypical Gen Y, although ambitious and driven, is actually more socially conscious than almost any other generation, but it sometimes seems hair gel and lip gloss are taking first place over modesty and a desire to help others.

Humility comes from our ability to find our place in the world, to know that everyone is equal – no better, no worse – and to live with some modesty and humbleness. It was drummed into many of us when we were young, but seems to be getting lost along the way.

Now kids are a product of the times – being raised during a period where technology was always increasing and readily available, money was generally in abundance, and physical appearance became a priority. Maybe they are too focused and too ambitious? Or maybe they just don’t know enough about what’s going on. Whatever it is, it’s important we teach our children to be great adults.

Why teach – why not let them figure it out themselves?
Humility, work ethic, reliability and other attributes are key characteristics in human beings. The help ensure we stay connected to each other, care for one another and focus on always improving our world through selfless acts. If we lose this, we lose a part of our humanity – we lose some of those few elements that actually make us different from animals.

If you want your children to be the type of people who care about our world – and for our people – we need to start while they’re young. So how do we do it?

1. Start small
Small acts will help get our kids in the right mindset to be humble people who care about others. Encourage them to help the elderly lady with her heavy bags, take part in initiatives like Clean Up Australia Day, volunteer at a local shelter or just take part in the MS read-a-thon. As they get older, ideas such as the 40 hour famine can give them a very practical understanding of what it’s really like to do without, or simply buy charity
Christmas cards, or their jewellery from Oxfam. Many of these initiatives are already organised, so all you need to do is give your child a push in the right direction.

2.Give them a sense of place
It is important that your children are confident, smart and independent. It is also important they understand their place in the world, and just how big the world is around them. Giving them a sense of place can be achieved by also giving them a cause they can relate to. Sponsoring a child gives them the opportunity to learn and understand how big the world is, and that people live in vastly different situations. This will help them realise their lifestyle and standard of living is quite good, and they have a responsibility to try to help others achieve the same.

3.Work hard
Another key ingredient to raising a child who is humble and becomes a great adult, is to instil in them a strong work ethic. Whether they work in fast food,
business card printing, for a charity or with a big corporate, they will benefit from the dedication and passion that is required to achieve. They will take instruction from others, learn from those senior to them and contribute from the bottom up.

4.Lead by example
Finally, the best way to teach your kids to be the type of people you hope them to be, is by being that person yourself. Lead by example. Be strong and independent, but genuine and caring, be confident, but humble, and intelligent but ready to learn. If you do it, maybe they will too.

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Inviting Dessert

I forget the name. This banana is baked and added with chocolate and serikaya jam. Serikaya is a jam that made of eggs, sugar and coconut cream. Yummy!
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Oct 1, 2011

Brothers and Husband

From left to right : Ludi, Rofi (husband), Luki, and Lusman- click to enlarge-
All of my brothers and my husband can gather together is really a rare moment; as they live far each other. About a month ago, we could be together as our father being hospitalized again at one hospital in Surabaya (East Java, Indonesia). After visiting our father, we wanted to take lunch. I captured the moment while they were walking side by side on Raya Darmo St. sidewalk, Surabaya.
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Sep 29, 2011

Where to Go When Your Home Is Being Renovated

So you have finally decided to add that extra bit of much needed space to your home and hired renovators to do extensive work to improve your house. What you maybe didn’t think about was where you and your family will go while all this is happening. If you don’t find a comfortable alternative for you and your family to stay at in the meantime, you may start to feel displaced, scattered and unorganized. Here are a few ideas as to how you can continue on with life like normal and keep doing what you need to do even after having your home invaded and pulled apart.

Have a home away from home
There is no reason why you can’t still have all the comforts of home while you are having your house remodeled. There are more than enough options for
serviced apartments in Sydney, Melbourne and apartments in Brisbane as well as any city in-between that will provide all the luxuries of your home in a neat little unit. Not only will you feel at home and be able to continue business-as-usual, but also you don’t have to worry about utilities and general maintenance for the duration of your stay in the apartment. Apartments are generally located in central and convenient locations so you can still be close to work, your friends and other amenities of your daily life.

Set up in a hotel
If money is an issue, a good alternative to the apartment is to find a nice hotel that is in a good location. Often hotels will give a discounted rate on long-term stays, and you will feel like royalty with convenient services such as room service and a daily cleaning service. If you have a large family, however, then serviced apartments may still be the best option so that everyone can have their own room.

Stay with family or friends

If you are lucky enough to have friends or family with a sizeable house (and don’t mind being imposed on), why not crash there for a few weeks? This is a great opportunity to spend some quality time hanging out and catching up, and you can all take turns with the housework. Just make sure you remember to invite them over to your new and improved home for a barbie to show them how much you appreciated their hospitality.

Go on a holiday
Being displaced from your home during a renovation can have its benefits. This is the perfect opportunity to finally go on that holiday you’ve always wanted to go on. If you’ve always wanted to take the family overseas, but didn’t have anyone to look after your home, now is your chance! Have you ever wanted to go on a cruise or is it time to finally visit distant relatives you haven’t seen in while? Take advantage of having this kind of freedom, because you never know when you will get the chance again!

Having your home renovated doesn’t have make your life more difficult, use this time to sit back, relax and let the professionals do all the work.

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Sep 26, 2011

An Old Lady

A candid shot. During on the way to Bandung (West Java, Indonesia) yesterday, we dropped by a while at one rest area. My husband parked the car right on the right side of the benches. This lady sat on one bench. I was interested with the hair rolls on her hair. Cute!
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Sep 24, 2011

Reviving the Past: Tips on Renovating a Heritage Home

People today are succumbing to the charms of heritage-listed homes and there are a number of great heritage listed areas in Sydney, ranging from Eastwood and Arncliffe to Strathfield and Parramatta. However, there can be a lot involved in renovating or restoring a heritage home, from finding experienced builders in Sydney, to installing the right flooring and, most importantly, knowing what changes you can and cannot make to a heritage listed home.

Outlined below are some of things you need to be aware of when looking to fix up a heritage home.

Tip 1: Know Your Property and the Laws

If you’re looking to buy a particular heritage listed property, or if you have already purchased one, it’s essential that you know the historical background of the property.

Get in touch with the local council and a heritage adviser to find out the historical significance and value of your home. By knowing the historical relevance of the house, it will help you decide on what is required to restore it back to its original period, or if you want to renovate and incorporate some modern fixtures.

It’s also essential that you research the laws regarding heritage listed properties and any specific regulations that apply to your residence. Familiarise your self with the EPBC (Environment Protection and Biodiversity Conservation) act of 1999, which will help explain the parameters of the changes you are allowed to make to a heritage home.

The reason why you need to familiarise yourself with the property’s history and the heritage conservation laws is because homes that are heritage listed often have restrictions placed on them. These restrictions ensure that renovations or restorations have no negative impact on a place’s heritage value.

Tip 2: Developing a Management Plan

When renovating or restoring a heritage home you have to write up a development management plan of all your intended changes to a home. This plan also has to be submitted to the appropriate government officials so it can be determined if your plans are going to have a damaging effect on the properties heritage value.

When developing a management plan enlist the aid of professionals, such as a local historian, construction builders, interior designers, flooring specialists etc. so that they can help you ensure that your renovations are viable and not going reduce the heritage value of the property.

A good development management plan (in combination with the advice of professionals) can also help you establish a budget. The budget will provide a rough idea of what your renovations are going to cost.

Tip 3: Hiring Experienced Professionals

When getting a group of professionals on board, such as builders, interior designers and flooring specialists, make sure that they have had previous experience in working on a heritage home.

Renovating a federation or heritage listed home requires a certain finesse and knowledge, because you’re essentially working with foundations, fixtures and a structure that can be over a hundred years old. Heritage homes require more care and can require specialised materials or knowledge of older building practices.

Tip 4: Don’t Be Afraid to Modernise

Whilst some heritage homes cannot be changed much, many heritage homes do allow for the inclusion of modern fixtures and features.

Owners of a heritage home shouldn’t have to feel that are constrained to the historical period of the house. A great home can be established that retains the old world charm of its period and yet incorporates a number of necessary and comfortable modern features.

Modernised bathrooms and kitchens can complement an old federation home well. The installation of modern floor materials (such as heated tiles) can also bring style and warmth to an older home.

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