Sometimes, your kids don’t give their all when they participate in a club or in an event in their international school in the Philippines. Sometimes, you also find yourself expecting more and, when they didn’t pass your standards, you’ll end up feeling disappointed. Before you vent out about your emotions, calm down and take deep breath. They are kids, after all. Here are some ways on how you can work through your disappointment:
1. Acknowledge Your Emotions
It’s normal to not recognize your emotions first. Sort through the unpleasant emotions and realize that it is okay to feel whatever you are feeling before deciding what you should do next.
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2. Don’t Take It Out On Your Child
A lot of parents yell at their kids when they mess up a play or did not get first place. In all honesty, don’t. Yelling serves no purpose and it will make your child feel worse. It will also not improve the situation.
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3. Realize That Kids Will Be Kids
Kids don’t take everything seriously like adults, especially the younger ones. It’s okay because they are young but some days, they may not try as hard as they did before. Once that behavior starts, you may want to figure out why the child acted that way.
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4. Look for the Good in the Situation
Not every situation has bad elements in it. There may be times it’s hard to find one, but do so and use it to boost your child’s confidence. Did he learn anything new? Did he make new friends? Was he able to overcome his shyness or his stage fright?
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You may be looking at the far future like college scholarship, modeling agencies, a chance to become an showbiz star, or anything like that. However, there is a 200% chance your child is not thinking of that. Talk to your child and ask him what his goals are then help him achieve those.
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Being the champion or earning 1st place is not the only way you can define success for your child. Try to look at it from another perspective.
7. Give It Time
Give yourself time whenever you feel disappointment seething through. This way, it will help change your perspective. When you have recovered and calmed down, there is a huge possibility you will wonder why you were so disappointed in the first place. You will find it easier to focus on the positive and see the success that was there all along.
8. Don’t Be Ashamed to Ask for Help
It’s true that sometimes it is a likely that not all help can come from one place. You found this article so why stop there? There are always concerned parents and guardians like you who seek help from different sources both either from friends they know or online help guides. There are also a lot of outlets that could help your child cope with sadness such as taking them to different camps or buying affordable electrical appliances in the Philippines that could possibly help them in any way. Never be afraid to try anything that could help your child deal with their problems.
It can be agreed that parenting may be an emotional ride but childhood is short. Don’t let yourself get swept away by uncomfortable feelings every time your child is participating in an event, sport or organization. Work your way out of your disappointment and let your child be he because at the end of the day, you will both be better off for it.
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